Unlock your depression: Reconnect yourself

Depression is like a virus; a cancer. It has potentials to be spread all over your brain cells.

Loneliness grabs you like a wrench.

Let’s start with a basic question-

How do people themselves interpret the experience of depression? Researchers found that the answer is almost unique all over the world. Everybody, suffering from depression, says that they feel alienated. Alienation from the real world, alienation from their surroundings and even alienation from themselves.

So when the problem is curing from depression the basic theory of the solution is found. You need to reconnect with the world, your surroundings and most of all, yourself.

Reconnecting means getting involved. Now when an individual is in depression it is always hard for him or her to decide how to reconnect again. So help is a must. For major sort of depression, clinical vigilance may help but when the depression level is at it’ middle peak things have to arranged other ways.

Social bond is the best therapy one can ever think of. If someone felling depressed is reading the article, then I would like to say this to him or her-

‘Did you ever have this weird feeling of hunger but at the same time feeling no taste for food?’ Your body is seeking food but you can’t think of anything to eat.

If you had the feeling, what did you do then?

Maybe you thought of some delicious foods one by one and played a little game with your tongue.

Burger? No, too heavy.

Roll? No, too dry.

Coke? No, too liquid.

Fish? No, too smelly.

Meat? No, too oily.

Bread? No, too dry.

Ice cream? … Umm… maybe…

Your tongue gets wet. Yes, if you try ice cream the body will not resist, nor do your mind.

It’s same when dealing the depression. You need to reconnect with the world. So you need an issue to get involved. Take the trial and error method and think of something.

Cycling? Driving? Cleaning? Photography? Reading? Writing? Jogging? Cinema? Gossiping? Traveling? Whatever.

Write every point you can think of. And watch out which of them is demanding attention inside your head even in a slightest extent.

It’s like unlocking a combination lock. Try the regulator and heed carefully where it clicks and suddenly you will find the unlocking code.

But what if you cannot decide what points to write on the paper? You need to lift the blockades from the thinking highway of your brain. And only one way to do this is building relationship with people. It’s true that the current world is too busy, too fast. But there is a supporting virtual world going parallel. And virtual world always intersects with the real world, somehow. As many your association is, so many roads are explored for thoughts.

Are you saying that, ‘Actually this is my problem. I cannot make relations with anyone. Even if I can it does not last.’ Well, it’s understandable. Otherwise, you would not feel lonely. But what can you do? Taking medications?

Is there any medication that can help you to rebuild your connections with the world?; maybe in science fiction but not in real life.

Human being possesses the most powerful mind among all species. As a part of the race, believe in yourself. This belief is not only for yourself; but for the greatest race of the planet that is changing everything to make the surroundings more livable, more convenient.

The ambition for self development

When can you be assured that you have developed yourself? To be more specific, the question should be, are you ambitious of being developed? Ambition is a addictive thing that hampers vision for future. Does it sound contradictory?
Maybe. But let me explain a little.

Think of a situation in your workplace. If you want to get promoted, you have to demonstrate your skill and ability. But rest of your colleagues are also going in the same direction. So should the promotion become a rat race where only the most cunning fellow reach or always justice finds the fittest person?

If you are successful by your ability you are keeping up with your ambition of reaching higher in terms of social stratification, no comments. But if you are reaching there with all the meanest short cuts you know then your ambition may be satisfied but can you consider yourself as developed? Will not the soul of you wander around your success crying?

Development of self means feeling happy.
Development of self means make feel others happy.

Ambition in its literary form is not that much necessary; more important thing in life is goal. Self development means getting yourself more fit for the goal.

You need to refresh your mind if you feel dull.
You need to gather knowledge to be equipped.
You need to go for the skill that you don't have.
You need to let others know what do you want.

The essence of self development is keeping the dream for a better future.

Winning over monotony of life

Doing anything over and over again is monotonous. Whether it is seeing movie or doing dishes. The curse of the modern times is expressed through the alienation of people.

Are you bored?
Yes I am.

That's a very common conversation of the present time. Why are you bored?
Sometimes I know, sometimes I don't.

Getting up early is boring, going to office is boring, sitting in front of a computer is boring, even sleeping with wife every night is boring. The list grows and grows; it is an endless process.

No one feels happy with monotony but even though he or she has to carry the burden all through the life. Is not there any way out? Are we destined to be unhappy?

No, never.

This beautiful earth has not been created to be unworthy for living. The beauty of the nature lies in diversities.

There are over 200 million insects for every human on the planet.
There are more than 10000 species of flowering plants.
There are more than 24,500 species of fishes in the water.
Approximately 6.8 Billion people are living in this world.

Just try to pass your life enlisting the names and the colors of fishes and at the end you will find that there is not enough time. So the minutest issue in the world deserves a life time reading. Sometimes one life hand over knowledge to it's predecessors. And we cult everything with the shape of time.

So monotony is a state of mind when it does not function with enough creativity to gain some new experiences. A house is not just a house, an office is not just office. Everything can be rearranged, reorganized and the monotony of life can wait.

The art is to develop the ability. It's not any supernatural quality, not any by born virtue. It's practice in a certain way that makes everything possible.

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Do you want to be changed?

Is there anyone who can criticize himself accurately? Don't take it wrong, of course you may have very transparent life and let your friends know all about you. Honesty is not the question, the question is linked with something basic instinct.

Instinct is something that we cannot deny and yet cannot accept. It's a peculiar contradiction lying in human being. We all like to defend what we think or believe but at the same time no one can say that he or she is fully satisfied with himself or herself.

Why these things happen?

First of all, it's not easy to confess in public about a weakness. Suppose you are one of the morality-preacher of your society but at the same time some obscenity do not offend you rather serve the elements of pleasure. How would you feel about that? You may fight yourself and spell,'Obscenity is crime. Human civilization must get rid of it.' But nothing happens. Still your mind gets distracted.

After feeling the guilt and anxiety you can now start thinking of the cause. The ancient proverb already cleared that- no one is perfect. So there is always a struggle of self development. People want to change on the contrast of their self pride. The psychological obscurity prevails in every individual. The sense of disbelief, loneliness and self centered ego keeps a man or a woman to dare to take steps to be changed.

Well, it is not a problem of that individual, it only reflects the prevailing values of the society. The factors causing all the problems are lying in this social construction and so we have to face things comprehensively.

Various habits or beliefs that we possess are causing harm to us along with the society.

We are disorganized.
We are lazy.
We are not willing to be self dependent.
We hate cooking.
We hate to do things.
We just pass a day.

This 'We' are us. It can be anybody. And anybody can earn the courage to be changed. What he or she needs is little help, guide and suggestions.

For them who can dare to take the challenge of new era and change them to reach for a successful life, we have developed some methods and guidelines. These are the results of some brave young people who are well aware of the problems of the society and have the intellectual strength to research the issue for a better solution.

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